Do spend 15 minutes of your weekend to read this very very important it’s about your life and I believe nothing can be more important than life.we are spending lots of time on waste like TV serials, Movies etc. Please spare 15 Min. for your loved one.
NOTE: THIS IS A REAL INCIDENT
Letter was written by a wife after her husband’s death in an accident
“Few things I learned after my husband’s death:-
We always believe we will live forever. Bad things always happen to others.
Only when things hit us bang on your head you realize… Life is so unpredictable….
My husband was an IT guy, All technical. And I am a chartered accountant.
An awesome combination you may think.
Techie guy so everything is on his laptop. His to-do list. His e-bill and his bank statements in his email. He even maintained a folder which said IMPWDS wherein he stored all login id and passwords for all his online accounts. And even his laptop had a password. Techie guy so all the passwords were alpha-numeric with a special character, not an easy one to crack. Office policy said passwords needed to be changed every 30 days. So every time I accessed his laptop I would realize it’s a new password again. I would simply opt for asking him ‘What’s the latest password instead of taking the strain to memorize it.
You may think me being a Chartered Accountant would mean everything is documented and filed properly. Alas, many of my chartered accountant friends would agree that the precision we follow with our official documents and papers does not flow into a day to day home life. At the office, you have been an epitome of Reliability / Competent / Diligent etc but. At home front, there is always a tomorrow.
One fine morning my hubby expired in a bike accident on his way home from the office. He was just 33. His laptop with all his data crashed. Everything on his hard disk wiped off. No folder of IMPWDS to refer back to. His mobile with all the numbers on it was smashed. But that was just the beginning. I realized I had a lot to learn.
9 years married to one of the best human beings with no kids just the two of us to fall back on but now I stood all alone and lost.
Being chartered accountant helped in more ways than one but it was not enough. I needed help. His saving bank accounts, his salary bank accounts had no nominee. On his insurance, his mom was the nominee and it was almost 2 years back she had expired. But this was just a start. I didn’t know the password to his email account where all his e-bill came. I didn’t know which expenses he paid by standing instructions.
His office front too was not easy. His department had changed recently. I didn’t know his reporting boss name to start with when had he last claimed his shift allowance, his mobile reimbursement.
The house we bought with all the excitement on a loan thought with our joint salary we could afford the EMI. When the home loans guys suggested insurance on the loan, we decided the instead of paying the premium the difference in the EMI on account of the insurance could be used pay towards prepayment of the loan and get the tenure down. We never thought what we would do if we have to live on a single salary. So now there was huge EMI to look into.
I realized I was in for a long haul.
Road accident case. So everywhere I needed a Death certificate, FIR report, Post Mortem report. For everything, there were forms running into pages indemnity bonds, notary, surety to stand up for you. No objections certificates from your co-heirs.
I learned other than your house, your land, Your car, your bike is also your property. So what if you are the joint owner of the flat you don’t become the owner just because your hubby is no more. So what if your hubby expired in the bike accident and you are the nominee but if the bike is in a repairable condition .you have to get the bike transferred in your name to claim the insurance. And that was again not easy. The bike or car cannot be transferred in your name without going through a set of legal documents. Getting a Succession Certificate is another battle altogether.
Then came the time you realize now you have to start changing all the bills, assets in your name. Your gas connection, electricity meter, your own house, your car, your investments and all sundries. And then change all the nominations where your own investments are concerned. And again a start of a new set of paperwork.
To say I was shaken my whole life had just turned upside down was an understatement. You realize you don’t have time to mourn and grieve for the person with whom you spend the best years of your life. Because you are busy sorting all the paperwork.
I realized then how much I took life for granted. I thought to be a chartered accountant I am undergoing so many difficulties, what would have happened to someone who was house maker who wouldn’t understand this legal hotchpotch.
A sweet friend then told me, dear, this was not an end, you have no kids, your assets will be for all who stand to claim. After my hubby’s sudden death. I realized it was the time I took life more seriously. I now needed to make a Will. I would have laughed if a few months back if he had asked me to make one. But now life had taken a twist.
Lessons learned this hard way were meant to be shared. After all, why should the people whom we love the most suffer after we are no more. Sorting some paperwork before we go will at least ease some of their grief.
1. Check all your nominations…
It’s a usual practice to put a name (i.e in the first place if you have mentioned it) and royally forget about it. Most of us have named our parent as a nominee for investments, bank accounts opened before marriage. We have not changed the same even years after they are no longer there with us. Even your salary account usually has no nomination. Kindly check all your Nominations.
– Bank Accounts
– Fixed Deposits, NSC
– Bank Lockers
– Demat Accounts
– Insurance (Life, Bike or Car or Property)
– PF Pension Forms
We have passwords for practically everything. Email accounts, Bank accounts, even for the laptop you use. What happens when your next in kin cannot access any of these simply because they do not know your password… Put it down on a paper.
Every year for tax purpose we do investments. Do we maintain an excel sheet about it. If so is it on the same laptop of which the password you had not shared. Where are those physical investments hard copy.
Make a Will. I know you will smile even I would be had I not gone through all what I did. It would have made my life lot easier a lot less paperwork. I wouldn’t be had to provide an indemnity bond, get it notarized, ask surety to stand up, no objections certificates from others…
When you take a loan say for your house or car. Check out on all the what if, what if I am not there tomorrow, what if I lose my job. Will the EMI still be within my range. If not get an insurance on the loan. The people left behind will not have to worry about something as basic as their own house.
My battles have just begun… But let us at least try and make few changes so that our loved ones would not suffer after we go. We do not know what will happen in the future. But as the Scout motto goes: Be prepared “
NEVER TAKE LIFE FOR GRANTED DO THINGS APPROPRIATE FOR THE ONES WHO DEPEND ON YOU WITH LOVE.
Family management is not only cooking + cleaning + taking care of the dependents but also involves complex operational knowledge of finances…
e above message is a must for every family and its success
- Courtesy: Whatsapp forwarded message
- Image Courtesy: http://www.postrock.k-state.edu/home-family/resource-management
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